You should expect your boss to stay professional. Bosses shouldn’t lead based on personal feelings and instead should lead based on the quality of your work. If your supervisor personally doesn’t like you, you should never know or feel that. Furthermore, everyone deserves a certain level of respect in the workplace.

If you find yourself feeling like an outcast and thinking, “my boss hates me,” here are six signs that indicate your supervisor personally doesn’t like you.

1. They Demonstrate Little Concern for Your Time

Your boss flys by your desk and asks you to do something. You try to get clarification but before you finish your sentence, they are gone as quickly as they came. As you are packing up to leave for the day – bam – they ask where that thing is.

A supervisor who operates in the “last-minute” and continually asks you to rush to get things done, signals little concern for your time. They invite you to last-minute meetings, ask for last-minute reports, or to make last-minute corrections to something. These are glaring signs that your boss personally doesn’t like you.

2. Your Supervisor Exhibits Negative Body Language

As you speak in meetings, you catch your supervisor rolling their eyes after you talk. In your one-to-one, you find your boss staring at their computer or mobile device after they’ve asked you a question. Even more, when you offer suggestions, they assume a closed-off position with their arms folded across their chest. All of these things explain why they never seem to remember your accomplishments.

It is easy for a supervisor to fake liking you with their words. Conversely, it is incredibly hard for them to do so with their body language. As a result, if your supervisor’s body language is at odds with their written and spoken word, your supervisor personally doesn’t like you.

3. They Frequently Flake On You

You have a meeting scheduled with your supervisor. You are waiting in a conference room, or a conference call and they aren’t there yet. Five minutes pass, then ten, and you finally leave. You deliver something via email and never hear about it again until they say it is needed, at which point you remind them you sent it long ago. Your supervisor shifts your priorities daily. Furthermore, they come to you in a huff needing something ASAP, only to vanish without further instruction. Or worse, contradict the previous directions just as you complete the task.

Having a supervisor flake out is damaging to your mental health. It is nearly impossible to meet performance expectations when working for one. Your boss personally doesn’t like you when they no-show for meetings, don’t acknowledge your deliverables, and are continuously shifting your priorities.

4. Your Supervisor Leaves You Out of Meetings and Decision-Making Processes

You see your peers meeting with your supervisor and panic, thinking you are missing a meeting. Looking at your calendar, you find no meeting listed. In passing, a peer corrects something you are doing. You ask when the process changed, and they tell you it happened during the meeting you were excluded from.

Being left out of meetings that discuss crucial decisions, or project updates that directly involve you is a sign your supervisor personally doesn’t like you. Similarly, being excluded from the crafting of decisions and processes demonstrates a lack of respect for your input.

5. Your Supervisor Makes You Feel Replaceable

You have been doing your job for a while. Or, perhaps you are highly specialized in what you do. Maybe your boss is new to the company. Despite that, your supervisor doesn’t consult you. Above all, they say and do subtle things that give you the impression that anyone could do your job.

When your boss doesn’t value your efforts, knowledge, and contribution, it is a sign they personally don’t like you. Having a boss who feels you are easily replaceable means you will not receive mentoring, development, or growth assignments.

6. They Avoid You or Never Have Time for You

You have a situation where you need your supervisor’s feedback before you can complete a task. So, you stop by their office, but they aren’t there. You call but get voicemail, you send an email, and it goes unanswered. They always reschedule or cancel check-in calls. Your supervisor never seems to have time for you unless they need something.

If your supervisor always seems to be missing in action when you need them, it is a sign they personally don’t like you. Some supervisors often avoid one-to-one conversations with solid performers when they don’t personally like them. Regardless of their personal feelings for you, a supervisor should be open, approachable, and available to every member of their team.

A good supervisor will treat everyone fairly. They won’t allow their personal feelings about you to impact the way they work with you. Even more, a good boss will show everyone on their team respect. If you identify with any of these signs, it is time to have a difficult conversation with your boss. Make sure they understand your needs because sometimes they may not be aware they are behaving this way. If nothing changes after surfacing the issue, start looking for a new boss.

Last updated on June 3rd, 2020 at 03:39 am